“Sooner
or later we've all got to let go of our past.” ― Dan Brown, Deception Point
Science
has progressed tremendously over the last few decades, the mysteries of
universe, origin of life, complexity of time and space, several aspects of
death, analysis of life in other planets, constant danger of global warming.
Science has transformed our lives in every sense. The world now exists within
our palms and in a way has become our reliable alternative route to escape the
mundane portion of life. Yet, despite all the advances made in the field of
technology to simplify our lives, there is something unique and a multifaceted
idea formed in the twenty first century. The idea to “Move On” in life amidst
all the prevailing circumstances. This feeling of going ahead in life, leaving
back the unfortunate series of events in the past, and pretending that
tomorrow, the dawn will pronounce a fresh start to life, an unquestionable
conjecture packed with hope that the morning choir of birds will reboot our previously
unresponsive, unhappy and melancholic existence, and initiate the same sketch
of our existence again with anticipation, that this time it will not crash.
Just think about it, this idea to Move on or shall I say more precisely voluntarily
or involuntarily adaptation in response to the surrounding environment is
perhaps one of the most significant discoveries of this generation. Yes, the
core idea have existed back to the time of evolution of mankind, and that human
nature, after a certain point is acclimatized to this approach. It does present
a great argument to my fictionalized assumption that this idea belongs to the
twenty first century, but the way the outlook of Moving On is represented in
today’s time is quite popular and not just superficially layered in our normal
day to day life but has become an assured choice to restart something and lastly
it also appears to be the only path to get rid of the sorrow driven through any
possible means, be it heartbroken in love, personal loss, failure and
rejections in life, the fear of mediocrity, the lust and pressure to succeed
professionally, the exponentially growing competition and many more factors.
Now,
I am not going to catalog the virtues and demerits of moving on, I am simply
trying to emphasize on the connotation of the idea, which has become so
relevant in our lives. It’s like we are lost at an unknown railway station
during peak hours among thousands of crowds and we do not have an iota of an
idea what to do, and we are told through a computerized female voice to get over
to the train named Move On. It will not take you to your desired station, but
will guide you to a safe space where you can actually re-plan about your
journey. Has commerce and involvement in our work lead us to this point that
moving on has attained such a vital importance in our lives, does not matter
how reluctant we get to move ahead in life, there is a modulus of elasticity,
where the resistance of reluctance is broken, and ultimately we are gravitated
into fast paced world.
The
idea of moving on also reflects the time we live in, where relationships have
evolved in a different way with time, and love holds a lot wider definition.
The dynamics of relationships have changed substantially, and moving on
constitutes a critical role in holding onto that course of action. There is so
less at stake and yet we are forced to one way or another feel the magnitude is
incalculable. In a way, the maturity of this astonishingly crafted, weird and
wonderful emotion in our present day lives have started to act as a catalyst on
how we perceive our relations, because somewhere somehow there is this unfussy
solution that is lying in front of us, which can be used through either
immersing ourselves into the idea, or letting it grow organically into your
thoughts. In Imtiaz Ali’s 2009 film ‘Love Aaj Kal’, Jai Vardhan Singh argues
with Veer Singh about being practical, whereas Veer Singh is still confused
about the equation of love that has unrolled over time. He then goes ahead and
explains to him that there is no shortage of complicated issues to get our minds to
ponder over, why make love a part of that list. Obviously, an underlying tone
is observed in Jai’s words that hint at the central value that moving on from a
person or a relationship holds over this generation.
Have
we become too impatient in our lives about our career, relationships, and
sensibilities?
The
reason I ask this question is that after the occurrence of a certain string of
actions in our lives, the basic and most widely used words we might hear in
order to make us come out of that silent zone are “Move On” in life. And
without any second thoughts, subconsciously we board the train named moving on,
and by the time we realize that we are moving on, we constantly tell ourselves
“Let it go” to remain focused on the process. So have we become too impatient
to actually sit down in silence and ponder over those events that lead to this
particular situation? Can’t we just simply think about that event and try and
analyze that situation which might throw a light on a flawed characteristic
that we possess, to eventually come out as a less flawed person or are we way
too self centered to accept any inherent flaw in ourselves?
That
does not mean that we have to obsessively think about those moments in the
past, and unnecessarily cramp our mind with senseless scenarios. No, but rather
accepting the situation and relinquishing the artificial denial that we build
during the time gap is a far better option. One might argue that no matter
what, it is pointless to stray towards the events in the past and to analyze it
further; rather it is comparatively less tedious (emotionally) to just move
ahead in life. However, doesn’t that represent moving on as simply running away
from the real life situation, looking for a safe space where our actions are
not be questioned in any sense?
Moving
on in its simplest of forms corresponds to an initiative we take internally to
get away with a certain form of grief, and programme our minds that there is a
better world out there with better people, with which we can end up with better
moments in life. It’s like a layer of different emotions, which gradually
breaks down over the course of time, be it guilt, regret, sorrow, memories, and
all of them amalgamate in some unrecognizable part of our memory center, never
to resurface again (unless triggered by similar circumstances). The intuitive
optimism is what drives the moving on process, I mean yes, the driving force
can also be external such as our friends, or our situations that we have no
other alternative but to go ahead in life and involve ourselves in something
else. There could also be a situation where there is not enough motivating
force to start that process, then as I said before, it grows gradually, slowly
reaping in our actions and our thoughts.
Moving
on is also symbolized as a form of progression in different context, for the opportunity
to look for a personal growth which also highlights its divergence in terms of
placing the process under the actual whole milieu. The tough times of competition,
the urgency to climb up the ladder of success, the tricky urge to involve
oneself in some kind of emotional bonding and yet not actively entrusting it in
any way whatsoever. The byproduct in this scenario is always enticing, be it
growing out of particular emotions, or growing into a something more elusive,
something that is not vulnerable to any sort of emotional triggering
.
Hate
it, ignore it, deny it, accept it, thrash the whole argument, but the whole practice of moving
on has been accepted by our generation, and yet not fully explored in terms of
its actual use, or its consequences.