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Sunday, December 31, 2017

Insomniac Diaries: The Oscillating 2017

Ain’t no Shame in holding onto grief, as long as you make room for other things too
 Bubbles, The Wire

It has been a tough year; professionally and personally. Many dreams on which I dedicated important years of my life got shattered (Needless to say, they are just delayed, I will accomplish them someday), and life is a total mess on the personal front. 2017 started with the diagnosis of mild anxiety disorder and chronic insomnia by a qualified Psychiatrist, and by the end of it, I can confirm I haven’t really worked my way out of those stages, but I have been working on it throughout the year; weight loss, sleep hygiene, listening to calm music before sleeping, and only when all the methods fail, I feel like going to the one who has been my constant companion this year; Alprazolam. 

I made some tough/bad choices this year, well actually this year has been full of bad decisions, and have come to the conclusion that I just wasn’t at right place at the right time with the right frame of mind. However, it is not an excuse that I am using as a false hollow shield to hide my failure with, Yes, I was an utter failure this year, perhaps I have been for a longer time but this year made me become aware of it. How did I become aware of that, because I was turning bitter, I guess failure and rejections at crucial junctions of your life does that to you, it turns you into a bitter person. Now it is upto me that how I proceed with all the bitterness filled in me. Failure and rejections are very subjective, and difficult to classify unanimously; a failure for you might not necessarily be the felt from the same point of view by someone else. The stakes are different; the yardstick for the measurement of the extent of failure varies. However, the drama unfolds in almost in the same scenario. The emotions get restricted with times; the mind is in constant search of anonymous solace, the unsolicited reminiscence uninterruptedly surrounding us, the usual practice where we end up analyzing the failure to its core. 

I have lost a lot this year, important people in my life, mentally and physically as well. I have seen both scenarios, timely and untimely death of loved ones. On one end, I saw someone accepting death against a rare form of cancer, and just simply waiting for the misery to end. I never experienced something like that, seeing someone anxiously waiting for death to knock on the door. On the other end, saw a premature death of a close friend, you are planning for life, living in poignant moments, and suddenly death strikes, and it is all over, just like that within a snap of a finger. The thousands of memories generated into those millions of neurons end in a moment. I just could not sleep after that, I had nightmares, that is something I will never be able to able to get out of, and my grandmother repeatedly tells me that we never make peace in our heart with the loss of someone important, we live with it, hold onto the moments of happiness, and move on with the grief. She tells me that we humans are processed that way, we move on. I heard this beautiful line in a TV series “Ain’t no Shame in holding onto grief, as long as you make room for other things too”.   

Saw some great films, that long stayed with me, the characters constantly raised questions about my perspective on a lot of things, read a lot of books, fiction, non-fiction, personal memoirs, saw some great TV shows. I will try to highlight some of those moments which i filled along with grief:

Meri Pyari Bindu is without any doubt remains a charming film for me; it gave a new perspective of love, Bubla Roy’s notion of love left a long lasting impact. My memorable moment in the film remains Bubla's monologue expressing what Bindu meant for him, comparing her to the sad words of Gulzar, Sachin Tendulkar’s straight drive, more heartbreaking than the last ten minutes of Hrishikesh Mukherjee’s Anand, Geeta Dutt’s voice and many more of extraordinary figures.

Meri Pyari Bindu
Arjun Reddy an iconic character with his flaws and imperfections manages to grab our attention and makes his point about love crystal clear. The film will surely gain cult status in the coming years. The film, which almost feels like a documentary on this fascinating protagonist, always keeps you engage. The scene where Arjun is feeling the heat of his raging hormones, and yet  does not get a chance to fulfill it, he then grabs a handful of ice and puts it into his jeans to calm himself. In another scene, he compares his state of mood swings to a women going through PMS, and makes a point that one should take care of him rather than telling him that it is all in the fate. I wrote a post on Arjun Reddy, Please do read The Journey of Suffering with Arjun Reddy 

Angamaly Diaries, a stylish gangster film with moments of utter chaos, madness, barbarism, delicious food, screeching of pigs below knife, business of pork meat. In a scene, a man wraps his hands around a tree while tying a bomb, with a hypothesis that even if the bomb explodes, his hands would face the casualty, leaving his face and body relatively safe. The film is raw and rustic in its nature, and so is the outstanding soundtrack, which forms an important part of the film. The film features an 11-minute long take climax, which became its highlight, but apart from that climax, the pre-interval long chase is equally adrenaline driven.  
Angamaly Diaries
Newton, I have been to the rural parts of Chattisgarh, I have seen the blankness that resides in the mind of the people. They do not give a damn about democracy or any ideology, for them the quest for survival is the important agenda.  The difference in opinions and ideology between Newton Kumar and Aatma Singh is what made this film interesting. The scene where Sanjay Mishra tells the rookie election officer, Newton that “one should not be arrogant about their honesty, it is expected from them and it should make you feel lighter, not burdened” is my favorite moment in the film.

Vikram Vedha, the template of Baital Pachisi styled into a neo-nor action thriller with an honest and equally dangerous police officer going against a ruthless gangster.  The entry scene of Vedha in the film reminded me why I fell in love with movies. If you have ever heard, read or watched the stories of Baital Pachisi, you’ll realize the film does follow every trait from the folktale, but in a contemporary fashion. Be highly attentive while watching this film, you do not want to miss anything, because the devil lies in the details. The film is oozing with intelligence, and puts you in a dilemma while questioning the morality of a good person versus bad person.
Vikram Vedha
The Wire, I never thought I will watch anything better than Breaking Bad, but I was wrong, I watched The Wire, which aired on HBO from 2002 to 2008 and consisted of 5 seasons. The story is set in a city of Baltimore, the post 9/11 era in the United States where we understand how the impact of drug on various important elements in the society, from the streets of Baltimore, to the docks, from the schools to local newspaper, each entity is equally impacted and embedded. It is not a dramatic show; it forms its roots in organizing realism as well as empathy. The Show is about the flawed American war against the drugs, and the makers go up, front, and tells you how flawed the American Society and its politics are. In season 1 of the show, there is a communication going on between two cops, when one of them tells the other we are up against the war on drugs, to which the other cop replies, it’s not a war on drugs, because war’s end. The show has one of the coolest anti-hero in the form of Omar Little, who also happens to be President Obama’s favorite TV character.   

Books, I have read considerably less in 2017, but this year I discovered some classics, and great books. Haruki Murakami’s “Norwegian Wood” remains a personal favorite. Murakami’s writing is simply therapeutic and spells magic through his words. I also read Franz Kafka’s “Metamorphosis”, which I liked and was slightly disturbed by certain scenarios in the book; maybe I am just too immature to understand his books, which are full of symbolism at its deepest layer possible. Gulzar Saab’s “DO LOG” turned out to be yet another remarkable work from the legendary artist.  Anne Lamott’s “Bird by BirdSome instructions on Writing and Life” was the book that I wanted to read for a long time, and finally I did got a chance to read it, it was funny, to the point, and does gives out some important words that one should follow in life. Bill Hayes’s “Insomniac City: New York, Oliver, and Me” was extremely personal and leaves you smiling with a hint of sadness. It talks about grief in a very different manner. Reading has been an important part of my life, and for the time being it takes me away from the grim reality of life. I am looking to explore more genres, more authors, translated works, novels in Hindi, Punjabi Literature. 



I’ll end my post by quoting George Jung from ‘Blow’ “But I force a smile, knowing that my ambition will exceed my talent”……


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